…from another mother. We recently rapped about how to keep emotional strength and stability. He‘s fresh into a new relationship with an awesome woman and he’s for sure frolicking in daffodils right now. It’s a beautiful thing. But it’s also brought up feelings of insecurity, possessiveness, and fear of loss. He’s a strong dude and had been living a single life for a while, so he’d been cut off from many of these feelings, thinking he had emotional super-strength. But now that he’s allowing himself to feel again, he’s like holy crap I’m a wreck.
I thought it’d be valuable to share some of the things we talked about with you guys, these have really helped me keep my emotions and values in check. They also helped him get majorly hyped to move forward into this new chapter of his life.
One love—
1. Let Go: when you feel overwhelmed by things you can’t control, let go and realize your true intentions. That you want whats best and whats going to ultimately generate happiness and love for the ones you love, and for yourself as well. Be ready to loose everything and let go of owning anything. Appreciate everything you have, but realize its impermanent because ultimately we are impermanent. Don’t harp on this or let it bring you down, rather let it teach you to let go of needing to be in control. This helps to love from the truest place, free of fear.
2. Habit Track: some apps to use HabitMinder, Productive, Strides, Today. Tracking things and creating a reward system of some kind — will help you stay accountable and stay on track, even during hectic or low energy days.
3. Set Badass Emotional Habits: i.e. read/listen to positive brain food for 5–60+ minutes daily, set your intentions for your life in the morning (keep it simple), meditate for 5 min minimum daily, etc. Introduce some that you think are valuable, see what works best for you and tweak/add. These are powerful and majorly help to live life aligned with your goals and values.
4. Energy Shift Toolbox: create a toolbox of emotional strategies to shift your energy and mindset when things get low or off track. Some strategies are:
- Movement: get the F up and move differently. Exercise. There’s emotion in movement and if you’re in a bad mood there’s a good chance your physiology is reflecting it in some way. So switch it up and break the pattern.
- Mental Shifters: have certain goto people/places/things that can instantly make you happy. ie. your niece laughing, your GF smiling at you, us snow boarding down a mountain, experiencing ultimate freedom on a boat in the open ocean, walking solo in nature, etc etc.
- Emergency Brain Food: listen to 5–10 minutes of positivity when you’re feeling down and it can quickly change your thought patterns and get you back on track.